Tip For Mom: Tickle Them!

Well – that’s easy, eh?  What a great tip!  Yawn!  Next link…

Daddy and kids

Seriously, though – this advice came from my husband, many years ago.  He tickles our children – a LOT.  They run, they scream, they beg for more.  Usually the time he’d be tickling them would be the time I was ready for “peace and quiet” in the house.  When we had only very young children, and I was exhausted when Dave would come home, I would usually go to the farthest end of the house – sometimes I actually blocked my ears.  Many times I complained that it wasn’t right to tickle children right before bed, because they’d never settle down… Dave would say it was wearing them out.  Hmph.

Don’t get me wrong – I did, and do, tickle my children – just not as ferociously and regularly as their father did/does.

Years ago, this began to change when one of the children told me, with shining eyes, that they knew Daddy loved them because he tickled them.

Ding! A modified cereal commercial popped into my head: Silly mommy!  Tickles are for kids!

Another time – about 2 years ago in the middle of construction and remodeling (aka chaos) – I was telling Dave over the phone I just didn’t have the mental energy to deal with the kiddos – couldn’t handle it – they were tired of me and I was tired of them.  His advice stunned me.

He said, “Hon, when it gets real dicey like that, just stop everything you’re doing and tickle them.”


My patient husband said, “Just try it – it will hit that reset button – and let them know you still love them in the middle of this chaos.  I’m serious.  Just tickle them.”

“OK, I’ll try it…”

I grabbed the nearest child and began tickling, attempting to find that reset button.  At first the children’s eyes registered shock and disbelief.  That lasted about half a second and then the sparkle came back into their eyes.  They danced around me, begging me NOT to tickle them, all the while hugging their sides and edging closer – with smiles and giggles.  Fifteen minutes later, we were all disheveled, but happy again.  We got back to work, and the children sighed, “Oh, that was fun, Mom!  Will you tickle us again when we’re done with this job?”

Throughout the day, while we’re working, I’ll try to remember this advice.  I’ll walk by and poke a child in the ribs, catch their eyes and smile.  Be careful when doing this with older boys who’ve been well-trained by their father in self-defense.  I have to move fast to keep my hand from getting grabbed, twisted and pinned in lightning-fast speed…  (Hmmm, maybe I’d better have Dave teach me some wrestling moves.)


Oh – remember how I felt about tickling young children before bed?  I have found that it DOES wear them out… 🙂

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9 comments to Tip For Mom: Tickle Them!

  • I’m going to have to try this out the next time I’m feeling as though we’re all feeling cranky.

  • Thanks Kimarie. What a great reminder that “Tickles are for kids.” This is so true and so hard for us moms to remember.


  • I have got to try this!!! I am looking forward to see how it goes. I have always been a NON tickler. Thanks for the idea. I have good tickling memories as a child.

  • jen

    this made me chuckle
    My kids are ridiculously ticklish – actually they are painfully ticklish so we never really tickled them – that is until we read this advice

    we have since tried it on our 9 year old – but it took me, my sister and a few friends to keep him still enough during the tickled. It lasted a mere 3 minutes (straight) and he was practically in tears the whole time and totally hysterical and frantic – but it worked, he was worn out.

    The following night he went to be at the first request. amazing


  • This is a great post! My husband (also a Dave) tickles our daughter as soon as he gets home. I’m so tired and have a headache usually at the end of the day and it drives me nuts sometimes.

    Thanks for posting this, I’m going to try it!

  • Something so simple, yet sooo valuable. We just get to caught up in the responsibilities of life and don’t make enough time like these with our children. Your kids will forever hold on to the tickle memories, which, of course, equal happy memories. Now that my daughter is away at college, I reflect back so often to her childhood and realize what everyone said was true ~ “It goes by too fast!” Well, my little guy is 7 and after mothering for so many years you get better and better at it. I will take your advice and add more tickles to create more happy memories in his memory bank. Thanks for sharing. Please stop by and visit and browse a while. If you like what you see, click the “Follow” button and subscribe just below to get instant updates. This way we can share ideas and spark each others creative juices.

  • The teen years can be stressful too but I’ve found some of our best times have been when we’re doing everyday tasks.

    Thanks for sharing.

  • I used to get frustrated when my hubby would play loudly- now I realize it was bonding LOL

  • Steve

    Just to clarify you used TICKLING to hit the reset button meaning to calm them Down, get them to smile? And to wear them out to help them go to bed? I gotta try this!

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